How We Are Different
What follows below is a statement of why we feel our philosophy and style of practice can produce good results for children and fathers. We believe that our approach to your situation maximizes the chances of getting the very best possible result.
We actually believe in Shared Parenting
We have always believed that children need their fathers in their lives just as fully, completely and equally as they need their mothers - no less. We have been fighting for this idea before phrases such as "co-parenting" and more recently "shared parenting" became popular. We help any parent - mother or father - who is being pushed out of their children's lives by the other. Most often we act for fathers because the biases in society frequently favor women against men in family law when it comes to children. However, neither gender has a monopoly on virtue and we also act for mothers up against over-controlling and irrational men in those rare circumstances where the father has custody and is keeping a loving and capable mother out of the children's lives.
We will not act for a parent who:
- Wants to use the kids as a weapon against the other parent.
- Wants to remove the other parent from the lives of their children.
- Wants the kids to live with them just to get child support from the other parent.
There are only two circumstance under which we will act for a parent seeking sole custody and principle residence:
- When the other parent is not willing to foster and facilitate a healthy, positive and meaningful relationship for the children with our client parent, but our client will do so for the other parent.
- The other parent's parenting skills are sufficiently and seriously deficient, for any number of reasons, clearly demonstrating that our client parent is an obvious better choice. We are not talking here about ever day problems that most parents face. No one is perfect and we each have our own problems.We recognize that in the society and times we live all people - mother and fathers - are trying to do their best under very difficult circumstances. Such adversity makes a child's character stronger because he or she will have to grow up and live in the very same society. We are talking here about serious and easily recognizable failures on the part of the other parent.
For us the glass is always half full.
- Fathers often hear - from many sources - that what they seek is difficult or impossible to obtain. "It can't be done!" "Save your money."
- We help men who don't want their kids to have the kind of fathers who follow that type of advice. Optimisim and faith mean we see the glass always as half full and never half empty.
Even more important than money to succeed is Patience
- The concept of "patience", how to gain and keep it and use it to maximum advantage is such an important factor in our legal practice that we've dedicated a separate page to it. Click here to read it.
- Along with legal help we always give coaching on how to conduct your parenting to be a better parent which also enables you to be more successful in court. One such piece of coaching advice can be seen here at How to Succeed in Family Court.
"Come in and see us"
Law Offices of Carey Linde
605 - 1080 Howe St.
Vancouver, B.C. V6Z 2T1
Tel: 604-684-7794 Fax: 604-682-1243
lawyer@divorce-for-men.com
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